By Rasha Almaqaleh
One
of the best things about being overseas is that you get an astounding chance to
examine by yourself the credibility of some stereotypes. Before moving to
Germany, we were a bit worried because we’ve heard a lot about the German people
and unfortunately most of it was not comforting; we’ve heard that Germans are
strict, hardhearted, overly nationalistic, etc. And for people like us, who come from
a country which is at war and where there is no way back and not much of a
choice, those stereotypes were a bit scary. However, after living in Germany for over a year, some of those stereotypes seem really
funny and in some cases are far from reality. So, what are Germans like? Here are some of the observations we made about the German culture
and lifestyle, SO FAR!
Yes,
many Germans speak English !
A
while ago, I was talking in the phone with my brother who lives in Yemen. He
asked me about the German language and how I mange every day. I told him that
German is indeed a difficult language but luckily most Germans speak English
and that’s how I manage most of the time.
He was taken aback and he answered in a clearly shocked voice: “WHAT?! Germans speak English? They
don’t mind?” He was in total disbelief
and the reason behind his reaction was the famous stereotype in my country about
Germans: ‘Germans are nationalistic. Therefore, they only speak their native
language with foreigners who don’t know German. And even if Germans know
English, they won’t speak it!’
Well,
you may wonder now : “what’s the point of learning a foreign language if you
intend not to use it, ever?”As a matter of fact, it’s not only that this
stereotype is absolutely wrong but it’s quite the opposite; many Germans speak
English well and they don’t mind communicating in English with someone who
cannot speak German.
Generally, Germans start studying English in primary school and they may also learn other foreign languages in high school such as French or Latin.
Moreover, many Germans don’t mind giving their children foreign names: French, Swedish, Danish, Turkish, Arabic, etc! There’s a German girl in my son’s group in kindergarten whose name is Jamila, which is an Arabic name. When we asked her mother about it, she said that they came across the name somewhere and they liked it and they knew it was Arabic!
Generally, Germans start studying English in primary school and they may also learn other foreign languages in high school such as French or Latin.
Moreover, many Germans don’t mind giving their children foreign names: French, Swedish, Danish, Turkish, Arabic, etc! There’s a German girl in my son’s group in kindergarten whose name is Jamila, which is an Arabic name. When we asked her mother about it, she said that they came across the name somewhere and they liked it and they knew it was Arabic!
Always
use your indoor voice, indoors and outdoors!
Germans
are generally very self-conscious especially when they are outdoors. They don’t
speak loudly and they are always keen to use indoor voice. You can rarely hear
them shout or yell. I don’t remember hearing a German calling someone’s name
loudly in the street! While this happens A LOT in Yemen and also in Italy where
there’s always someone calling someone else’s name out loud, in Germany this is
not the case, because Germans are not vocal or loud speakers. So, if you are going to live in Germany, modify your volume and start training yourself
to use your indoor voice, indoors and outdoors.
‘möchten’
is always safer than ‘wollen’!
Germans
are very polite people. They use courteous language even when talking to family
and friends. They ALWAYS use polite words such as ‘Bitte’ , ‘Dankeschön’,
‘Darf Ich…?’, ‘Einen schönen Tag noch’, and most importantly ‘möchten’ which is sometimes
translated into ‘would like’. If you want to say that you want to go home, you
better say ‘ ich möchte nach House gehen’. it is more polite than saying ‘ich will
nach House gehen’, which indicates being sort of demanding, commanding and
authoritative . That’s why it’s sometimes OK for younger children to use the
word ‘wollen’; you know how children can be very demanding! So, Adults are not expected to express themselves casually not even with a spouse or a close friend. In Germany, it’s always about being polite
and impolite.
‘Hallo’
in stores and ‘Guten Tag’ in public offices!
If you get on the bus, the bus driver usually
will greet you with ‘hallo’. If you enter any shop, the shop assistants will
smile at you and say “Hallo”! If you go to the cash register in the supermarket
to pay for your purchases, the cashier will always greet you with a smile and a
hallo. But if you go to the town hall (Rathaus) or to the migration office then you are
going to hear a formal greeting which is : ‘Guten Tag’. So, never use informal
greetings in public offices!
Passionate recyclers!
But in Germany, recycling is a big deal and the whole complicated recycling process could be baffling for newcomers; there are different colorful bins and each color is for a specific type of waste. There's also a waste collecting schedule for each area. At the beginning of our stay, it was really overwhelming to sort out waste properly and to keep track of the timing. Fortunately, this gets better with time!
‘Coffee and cake’ NOT at the coffee table!
It is common here in Germany to get invited in
the afternoon, especially in the weekend, for ‘Kaffee und kuchen’ around 4
O’clock. It’s a social tradition where people get together to catch up over a cup
of coffee and some cake. What I really didn’t expect was to drink coffee and
eat a piece of cake at the dining table! At the beginning, it sounded way too
formal and a bit weird to sit at the dining table in the afternoon just to have
a cup of coffee and a piece of cake. For me, I prefer to have coffee and cake
at the coffee table in the living room, where it’s more comfortable and causal. But then
with time I realized that this was the German way. They don’t mean to be formal
or make you feel less comfortable. It’s just how they do it.
In
Germany, there is something for everything!
I remember one time we were hanging out with a German family at their place and when my son got hungry, the lady boiled an egg for him. To my surprise, she placed the egg on a container which was similar to the egg's size and shape. It was then when i saw an egg cup for the first time in my life! Germans don’t eat boiled eggs off regular plates. Instead, they place
them on particular cups designed only for holding eggs.
I also found out later that there was another piece used to serve boiled eggs and it’s called ‘egg warmer’! It is used to cover the boiled egg in order to keep it warm, in case you are not going to eat it immediately! Or as a German teacher justified: “ On Sunday morning for example when you boil eggs for the kids but they don’t wake up early for breakfast!”
I also found out later that there was another piece used to serve boiled eggs and it’s called ‘egg warmer’! It is used to cover the boiled egg in order to keep it warm, in case you are not going to eat it immediately! Or as a German teacher justified: “ On Sunday morning for example when you boil eggs for the kids but they don’t wake up early for breakfast!”
Special equipment for boiling eggs we found in the store |
Another funny fact about Germans and boiled eggs is that they never use a metal spoon when eating boiled eggs. Instead, they use a plastic spoon! "The reason behind that is the egg doesn't taste delicious whit a metal spoon!" a German friend informed me!
'Nur Bares ist Wahres' (Cash is king!)
During our stay in Sweden, we noticed that credit cards are widely used and cash money
almost disappeared in the day- to-day transactions. And each time we made a
purchase with cash, we would feel a bit embarrassed and old-fashioned. That’s
why when we first moved to Germany, we expected to encounter the same fashionable
payment system, especially since Germany is well-known as a wealthy 'first-world' country that has made great achievements in science and technology and its economy is one of the greatest economies of the world. But to our surprise, we found out that Germans prefer to pay in cash and the use of cards is very limited! When we ask Germans about it, they
say that they aren’t fond of cards and that cash is their number-one choice. They rationalize that this way they can keep track of
their money and control how much they spend. For that reason, ‘cash is king’ in Germany!
How
well do you know….?
This
was the title of the second unit of Level- A1 book of the first German class in
school. The topic was about knowing people abroad (im Ausland) and ‘how well
you know them’. To my surprise, there were only three choices to answer that
question: not good ( nicht gut), good
(gut), and very good (sehr gut).The word
‘friends’ was not included in the choices, therefore I assumed that the phrase ‘know someone very well’ probably means being
friends with them. But when I asked a couple of Germans about it, they said
“No, not necessarily!’ If a German says that they know someone very well, it
doesn’t actually mean that they’re friends or close to them. Apparently, this is a unique German skill with which you can get to know people very well without being intimate or close to them. Honestly
speaking, I really don’t know how that works! What I understand is that when
one knows someone else very well, that means they have to be close to each
other in a way or another. Otherwise, how on earth would they get to know each
other VERY WELL?
Another
thing is a quiz I did on one of the ‘Learn-German’ websites. There was a number
of questions in English and they were translated into German. oddly, whenever
there was the word ‘friend’ in the English text, it was translated in German into ‘Bekannte’, which literally means ‘acquaintance’ and not a friend !
Even though Germans are nice ,well-mannered, and welcoming, they are very careful, and sensitive, when it comes to the word ‘friend’. They prefer to keep distance and it takes them a long time, longer than usual, to call someone a friend!
Even though Germans are nice ,well-mannered, and welcoming, they are very careful, and sensitive, when it comes to the word ‘friend’. They prefer to keep distance and it takes them a long time, longer than usual, to call someone a friend!
Overall, Germans are a bit, or a lot, reserved and self-disciplined. However, they
are not as pictured sometimes in media and movies; 'rough insensitive
creatures.' On the contrary, they are nice, polite, supportive and cooperative.
They are not ‘overly patriotic as some people in my country think. As a matter of fact, they are ‘culturally
curious’ and they want to know more about people who come from overseas. They
love to attend intercultural events and they don’t mind learning foreign
languages. And I totally understand their passion because I personally find knowing different cultures and observing various lifestyles fascinating!
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Grazie mille, amica mia!
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